我们大多数人都知道,当你和父母之间对话,说和听不是每次都能顺利。情绪和过去的经验可以造成障碍。
这在很大程度上取决于你的父母。有些家长较易与他们沟通,有些是很好的聆听者,亦有些是难以接近的。
但会发生什么部份取决于你。你说话的方式可以影响到父母是否听得进去和理解你。
所以,这里有些点子:
*要明确和直接。你的想法、感觉和希望要明确。详细说明能帮助父母了解你的情况。如果他们明白你的意思,和知道是什么的一回事,他们可能更听得进去或更能帮助你。
*要诚实。如果你总是说实话,父母将可能相信你说的话。如果你有时会隐瞒真相或“加油添醋”,家长会难以相信你所说的。如果你技谎,他们会发现很难信任你。
*试着去了解他们的观点。如果你们意见不合,你能从父母的角度去想吗?如果可以的话,说出来。告诉父母你了解他们的看法和感受,这让他们更愿意从你的角度去想。
*尽量不要争辩。使用友善和尊重对方的语气,这让父母更容易听得进去,和认真考虑你所说的。这也促使他们以同样的方式与你对话。
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原文如下(未完的部份亦已补上):
As most of us know, talking and listening don't go smoothly every time when it's between you and your parents. Emotions and past experiences can get in the way.
A lot depends on your parents. Some parents are easy to talk to, some are great listeners, and some are harder to approach.
But some of what happens depends on you, too. The way you talk can influence how well a parent listens and understands you.
So here are some ideas:
* Be clear and direct. Be as clear as you can about what you think, feel, and want. Give details that can help parents understand your situation. They can listen better or be more helpful if they understand what you mean and what's really going on.
* Be honest. If you're always honest, a parent will be likely to believe what you say. If you sometimes hide the truth or add too much drama, parents will have a harder time believing what you tell them. If you lie, they'll find it hard to trust you.
* Try to understand their point of view. If you have a disagreement, can you see your parents' side? If you can, say so. Telling parents you understand their views and feelings helps them be willing to see yours, too.
* Try not to argue. Using a tone that's friendly and respectful makes it more likely parents will listen and take what you say seriously. It also makes it more likely that they'll talk to you in the same way.
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